Feb 8, 2010

Please listen..

This is an oldie, at least 4 years old, i wrote for someone very close to me - it's worth mentioning, she has yet to read it.

When I ask you to listen to me & you start giving me advice, you haven't done what I asked you.

When I ask you to listen to me & you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel this way, you're tampering on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me & you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that u listen! Don't talk or do!
Advice is cheap; 20cents will get you the best advice columns in a newspaper & I can get it myself, I'm not helpless. Maybe discouraged & faltering but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can & need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear.

But when you accept a simple fact that I feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can stop trying to convince you & get about the business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling.

And when that's clear & the answers are obvious & I don't need advice, irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them.

Perhaps that's why it works for prayers, sometimes, for some people. Because 'GOD' is mute, he doesn't give advice or tries to fix things. 'GOD' just listens and lets you wrk it out for yourself.

So please listen..just hear me..
& if you want to talk, wait a minute.. for your turn & I'll listen to you.

till fireflies go blind and ladybugs dry up, my voice shall echo upon deaf ears

- Salam, B x