Jul 10, 2010

Great Advice from my Mum

I'm so glad i have my mum to teach me the following, & I'm glad I'm able to share them with you.
well she sent it to me..but i prefer thinking it was a 'her-to-me' kinda tihing

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then hell no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think 'it will get better' You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up..

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...Even if he has more education or in a better job.
Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending , Compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...

There is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you , a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
Do not make him into a quasi-god.He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Look for someone complimentary. Not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted
Never move into his mother's house.. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful
You should know that:
You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices .. Make the right one.

and finally darling take care of your own heart....